The View on Troubled Teens #3-Social Group

Teenagers are naturally social. They may prefer large groups, small groups, superficial friends, or friends that have very meaningful relationships. These social groups tend to become the most important factor in their lives, eventually surpassing their parents (to the dread of most parents). Unfortunately/Fortunately, that is the natural progression and is part of them growing up and being independent. The parents of "troubled" teens will usually notice/feel when that social group is negative. It may be one friend in particular or an entire negative group. It can be very important to "go with your gut" when you feel/recognize that negative friend/group. The earlier you can influence your teen in another direction the better. Changing their routine, enrolling in sports, spending weekends/free-time doing activities can all be utilized to separate negative influences (also gives you more time with your teen). This can also provide opportunities for you to talk about how that friend/group has impacted/changed your teen. This can be done in brief moments and shouldn't be a negative "bashing" session on the other kid/group, but insightful on how you have seen your teen change dependent upon their social group/friends. Hopefully, some of these "easier" tactics work. If they don't then remember that you are the parent and are responsible for their needs. Your teen is not in your social group and that may mean setting a hard line. Not allowing them to spend time with a particular friend/group, changing schools, limiting technology, or grounding your teen can all be utilized to influence positive social decision making. In the end, your teen will develop a social group that will help determine their direction in life, but that can/will be coupled with your input as a parent.